Announcing your engagement—tips for Instagram, Facebook, and other social media platforms
So you said yes! Congratulations on your engagement. Now it's time to tell the people in your life that you're tying the knot. Announcing your engagement: These days, that often means sharing the happy news on social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok—and that can put a lot of pressure on many couples. You've probably seen dozens of these announcements in your feed and may be comparing the rings, photo quality, captions, etc. What if you don't want to share your news on social media? Is that okay too?
I have a few tips for you to help you design your engagement announcement with style and elegance.
How do I tell my family that I'm engaged?
Even though it may be difficult, you should hold back a little at first until your closest friends and family members know about your news. Family members who are not on social media should be informed in person or at least by phone or video call if a personal visit is not possible. Of course, your siblings and best friends also deserve to hear the news in person.
Only after you have informed your family and closest friends is the right time to share the happy news with the rest of the world. This could be a day later, a week later, or even months later—the time frame is entirely up to you and when you feel ready to inform the public.
Tips for announcing your engagement on social media
Do an engagement photo shoot.
As an engagement and wedding photographer, I am naturally a fan of doing engagement photo shoots for engagement announcements, rather than just uploading a few photos "at random."
An engagement shoot is a great way to formally announce your engagement and set the tone for your wedding. As a couple, you can take your time and get comfortable in front of the camera. Nowadays, we often post and share our special moments online within seconds. Take the time to do an engagement shoot that conveys a welcoming, organized impression and puts you as a couple in the spotlight. You'll find a little surprise from me below.
Takes a collaborative approach.
Even though announcements on social media are an invention of the new millennium, I suggest viewing them in a somewhat conservative light. Announcing an engagement on social media is a modern version of the announcements that used to appear in newspapers. These were printed and sent to the local community. Social media gives you the opportunity to capture the moment and share it with a larger community beyond your hometown. Look at it from this perspective and create something unforgettable.
The announcement should reflect your personality.
The type of photo you post is up to you and can also reflect your uniqueness. Some couples may want to post a selfie with big smiles on their faces, while others may be a little camera shy and prefer to just post a photo of the ring.
How to take the perfect engagement ring selfie
When you do an engagement shoot, it's best to go to a place that has special meaning for you as a couple—a place where you had your first date or shared your first kiss, a restaurant you both love, the location of your first date, and much more. You can also use this opportunity to set a special style/outfit for your wedding by designing the shoot in the same color scheme or general mood that your wedding will have.
What do you say when someone is engaged?
Here are some examples of headlines you can use:
- "Knowing [your partner's name] means loving [your partner's name]. I am so happy to spend my life with you."
- "Together forever."
- "x" years ago, on our first date, [your partner's name] brought me here, and today he/she got down on one knee and asked me to be his/her wife/husband. I am engaged to the love of my life.
- I am overwhelmed and looking forward to the next chapter of my life with the best person I could have wished for.
In the spirit of community, a nice, positive caption could be addressed directly to your loved ones: "We are happy to share this news with you" or "January 6 was a big day for us." A personal post describing how the marriage proposal went is a good option, or you could let a famous quote speak for itself.
Finally, here are a few important rules about what NOT to include in the text of your engagement announcement on social media:
1. Do not use this opportunity to attack ex-boyfriends/girlfriends or enemies.
2. Avoid making promises in your caption, such as telling everyone they are invited to the wedding or tagging specific friends and announcing, "Get ready to be bridesmaids." This is not the right time to finalize your wedding party.
3. Do not ask for money. This is distasteful, inappropriate, and simply unacceptable.
4. If you want to use a wedding hashtag, it's probably best not to use it too early. A hashtag that is often used as a search term to find all photos of the event in one place can be used by other people long before the wedding and irritate your friends and family.
Once you have decided on a hashtag, use it shortly before the wedding and around the time of the celebrations.
Do you have to announce your engagement on social media?
Honestly, we don't have to spill everything about our private lives. These days, you may feel obligated to inform the world about the big events in your life. But there's nothing wrong with keeping things within your inner circle if that's what you want. There are no rules about what you have to share about yourself. Maybe you're excited to share some wedding photos, but feel weird about never posting an engagement announcement. But that's not the case!
It's okay to keep some things to yourself and only share some of them. Social media shouldn't pressure us into sharing every aspect of our lives. It's perfectly fine to keep some details private and only experience them in your personal life.
📩 Now comes your surprise!
I love getting to know my community on social media. Follow me on Instagram @michael_kobler and send me a DM with the word "engaged" – I have a little surprise for you! 🎁✨ I look forward to telling your story in pictures soon! 📷💛
Engagementand couple photos are a great opportunity to gain some initial experience in front of the camera and work personally with your wedding photographer before the big day. I would be happy to customize your couple photos to perfectly showcase you and your partner, choosing a location that brings out the best in your personalities.
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